I know I’ve said it time and time again… but I LOVE THE BIGGEST LOSER! Not only do I love the BL but I love what it does for people. A lot of people have been giving the show hate for the recent contestant (who by the way came out and said it is after all a COMPETITION!)… but they haven’t seem to focus on the POSITIVES!
I took a chance by sending a message to this season’s contestant, Bobby Saleem, (my favorite from this season) and to my surprise he actually answered me!!! I loved watching Bobby on the show because he not only worked his ass of every time… but I never heard “can’t” come out of his mouth. He may have wanted to stop but he never did. What also struck a nerve for me was his ability to “come out” on national television. I thought this was absolutely amazing! To think… tons of men and women watch this show and are influenced every day by it… and by him coming out his has allowed other people to feel okay about their sexuality. I was so worried about what his parents would say…just like him….but yet again they surprised me! It was amazing to watch his father support him not only in his fitness venture but even further.
Anyways getting back to the point!!! After speaking with him online… it made me only wish to connect more with him! If I lived in Chicago he would defiantly be my partner in crime! So I decided to ask him if he would be interested in doing an interview for my blog… and here it is!!!
1) Tell us about who you were before BL…what did you do for a job? how did you feel about who you were?
I think my portrayal on the show was consistent with who I am as a person. I am a smart, funny, and driven person. However, I did suffer from very low self-esteem and had virtually no confidence in myself whatsoever. I was an associate attorney for a general practice firm. I was uncomfortable in the person I was. I did not cope with my sexuality appropriately, and truly felt generally lost in my life. It definitely affected my relationships with my family and friends because I gradually began to isolate myself. Also, professionally, as a lawyer, I felt very uncomfortable and unconfident. I felt like I could not be the zealous legal representative when I was so internally torn.
2) How has BL changed your life?
BL has changed my life in so numerous ways. First and obviously, I became a physically fit athlete and also a healthy individual. Also, I became much more mentally strong. I felt confident in the person I am and truly became a proud homosexual male. Finally, I started to define and shape who I was as a person, and now I know what I want out of life and in the future!
3) On the show you “came out” for millions of viewers… any words of wisdom for people who feel they can’t b/c they won’t be accepted by their family or they are scared of people’s reactions?
Yes, I “came” out in a big way! I would tell similarly situated people to take their time with their decision to come out. I think everyone knows when the right time and situation is for themselves. For me, this was my path. However, I don’t recommend that national television is right for everyone, haha! But seriously, the time will be right and they will know. I would definitely say do it on your terms! Also, for me, this was truly a process of self-acceptance. I would focus initially to accept their sexuality. It’s part of who I am, but certainly doesn’t define me. Yes, I am a gay male, and am proud of that fact, but there are many facets of Bobby that I am also proud of that. Once this individual truly accepts everything about them, then they are ready to come out. Luckily, my family was very supportive; however, I was ready to handle it if they weren’t. I was ready to step away and be a happy person, and not care what their negative feelings toward me may be, and this is because I came to a point where I loved myself. That’s truly important.
3) What is your favorite body part to workout and why?
I don’t know if it’s certainly my favorite part of my body to workout, but I have focused on my gluteus maximus! Haha. It’s primarily because I seemingly don’t have an arse anymore!!! I am trying to have some semblance of a booty.
4) What is your prefered training type? Cardio? Weight lifting? HITT?
I love cardio. I particularly love indoor cycling. I am pretty much addicted to it. Having said that, I do need to put some muscle on this body so I have to love to weight lift as well.
5) How to you curve your cravings?
I take a moment. Every addiction passes after 3-5 seconds. If that doesn’t work, I drink tons of water. I then wait 10-15 minutes. Usually, that does the trick. However, if I am truly hungry, I will then prepare a healthy snack or small meal.
6) What was it like training w/Bob & Jillian?
It was simply amazing and surreal! Bob was the perfect trainer for me, and mostly because I came into the show with a torn ACL. He modified all my exercises so I can still get a great work out but also prevent strain on the bad knee. Jillian was so motivating and made me realize that I can push above and beyond my own expectations. I had made very strict boundaries for myself, and in no way, shape, or form believed that I would make it as a finalist. She helped me gain that mental strength to know that I am a force to reckon with in the house! I think they are both exceptional people and true professionals. I respect the two of them so much. I truly believe that they made me into a better person, and I am indebted to both for my personal and physical progress. I have deep affection for both, and will hopefully maintain a friendship after the show.
7) Any advice for people who are trying to lose weight but can’t seem to?
I think the first thing to figure out is the reasons they struggled with food. Obviously, everyone knows what mine was on the show. Because I was allowed to really delve into my issues and figure out why I gained the weight in the first place, it then allowed me to just lose weight. I had to figure that out. I will then tell people to fix or understand those issues first. The rest will follow when internal peace is truly created. 8) Who have been your biggest supporters? My friends and family have been such an exceptional source of support. I have an amazing, supportive group around me and that makes me extremely lucky. The fans have also been amazing. I really have awesome and hot fans, and am truly appreciate of all of their support!
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9) What are your plans for the future? Where will we see Bobby next?
I will continue with my healthy lifestyle. I am primarily focused on being the athlete I have now become. I am training for tennis tournaments, a 2 day 200 miles AIDS Ride, and different races. (Also, I would appreciate any donations here: http://bit.ly/bobbysaleem) I am excited about all of this! There are a lot of opportunities out there for me that I have certainly happened from the show. I can’t wait to formally share those opportunities. The appropriate time will come when I can!